I’m giving up cursing as of June 1. Now, I don’t think that I curse a lot, but I have noticed – and even my sister was quick to point out – that my speech had become peppered with too many words of profanity. I could come up with an entire list of reasons as to why I started cursing so much. But all the excuses in the world don’t begin to justify how lazy I was becoming in my speech. Cursing is a habit that, once developed, can become so much a part of you that one doesn’t even know or pay attention to the fact that you are even doing it.
For example, this past week I made my annual trek to Walmart on North Avenue. As I made my way out of the store, one of the male greeters, who must be in his 70s, was holding a personal conversation with another man. I didn’t pay any attention to what they were talking about. But as I passed him and his friends, I got an earful. “Blah … blah, blah, the MF’er …” came out of the greeter’s mouth with no regard for my being a woman and a customer. Plus, he was oblivious to the children in the vicinity who could have heard him. I paused and looked at the man but he was so involved in reiterating his personal drama that he didn’t even notice nor even consciously care what he was saying and in front of whom.
I tire of going to stores and businesses and having to hear the personal problems of employees. Especially when their conversation is all about bemoaning their jobs that no one is forcing them to be at. Now, admittedly I should have gone to the manager at Walmart right away and told him/her my concern. But I was in a hurry to get back home. Besides, the truth of the matter is that as adults we should personally better monitor what comes out of our mouths.
The use of profanity in place of real words is a crutch. It is a sure sign that the person doesn’t have any other words or is too lazy to use better words.
But when profanity pours out of the mouths of more experienced people, we do a disservice to our young. We who have lived the years should set a better example because far too many of our young people believe that their ability to use profanity somehow makes them older or more grown. It doesn’t.
Rather, profanity only highlights the ignorance of the speaker. Words that can more accurately describe what the person is trying to say get replaced with profanity and then they add: “You know what I mean?” Truthfully the response is; “No, I don’t.”
Profanity has become so commonplace that certain profane words are used as the subject, verb, noun and pronoun. Even worse is having to hear people on their cellphones screaming profanities.
Lastly, we all need to watch the words we use in front of children. We are stealing our children’s childhoods when we introduce them to the adult world before their time. We can each do a better job of monitoring what comes out of our mouths. I urge everyone to try and actively better themselves by removing profanity from their speech.